Why older couples are getting divorced
I was reading a woman's weekly on the airplane that analyzed why the divorce rate among Japanese couples over 55 is on the rise. (The overall divorce rate is on the decline.)
- Greater life expectancy means more life to live. Back in the day when people only lived until they were sixty-something, it seemed reasonable to stick around even after the kids grew up, since there wasn't much time to start over anyway. Now, with the average life expectancy in Japan being much higher, people see the post-child-rearing era as an opportunity to start over, to find romance again, or to travel, or whatever it is they haven't gotten out of their system.
- A couple years ago, in my very first TokyoMango blog post ever, I wrote about a new law offering half of the husband's pension to his divorcee. This, of course, enables housewives to survive financially without being at their husbands' beck and call.
- Women forget that men need to be babied. One woman expert commented that women take care of the men in the early days of marriage, but by the time their husbands are getting ready to retire, they aren't as enthusiastic about it anymore. Treat your husband as you would your son, she suggests.
- Women are sick of being disrespected. One male expert commented that many husbands are super rude to their wives, not treating them as equals and shunning their efforts to make things work as a couple. It serves them right that the woman finally feel empowered to get up and leave.
- One woman expert, divorced, reminds older couples to try everything possible to make amends before making the final split.












































